Monday, May 9, 2011

We leave for San Francisco in 2 days! I can't believe how soon it will be here. It seems just like yesterday when I was blogging about booking our tickets. Now it's right under our noses. I am so excited to get away with my wonderful husband. He needs the time away almost as much as I do.

I also want to share what we are doing in church the next few weeks. We are doing an Andy Stanley 3 week video series on Marriage. It's titled "Little i, Big Marriage". We watched our first session on Sunday and I am excited to see how this is going to pan out. We have only been married for 3 years, and we have learned a lot along the way and most of the time it has come with many tears. I have learned about the things that Brian needs from me and he has learned about the things I need from him, and in the process we have hurt each other's feelings to get to these "revelations". In the first session Andy discussed before we get married we have these desires. We desire to have a nice house, nice car, money, that our wife will wear sexy things to bed, etc... After we are married, some time in our marriage these things turn to expectations. Andy asked us to challenge each other and discuss what we feel our expectations have become of each other, so we can get them back in the desire category. This question had me thinking all day. And to be honest, we have not had this discussion, and I don't want to have this discussion with Brian because we will probley cry and have hurt feelings... but isn't that what marriage is about? Don't get me wrong, I hate when I hurt Brian's feelings, but we are supposed to challenge each other and grow along side each other. And sometimes that requires us to have the truth spoken to us and to have our feelings hurt. I realize I put a lot of pressure on Brian regarding certain things and this lesson brought that to life within me. I am trying to analyze my answer to the dreaded question of "what do you expect of me?" I know he is going to ask me sometime this week and to be honest I am nervous. I can honestly say I dread him asking and I dread what he will say when I ask him the same question.

Uggg.... well, now that I have shared my rant, I challenge you to have the same discussion with your own husband/wife. And to even watch the series together. It's only 3 session about 35 minutes each. Here is the first video. I found it on UTube broken into 2 different sessions.

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